-Fear factor...

the other day, i read a book... regarding the power of mind i think...
and i read upon an interesting articles which was about the motivation of our action...
it is much easier if i describe it in form of story, so, here goes:

Scene 1

Minah is young, sweet girl with a great carrier.. though she is blessed with a good look and a successful life, yet she's having a relationship problem which is she never have one.. ironic huh?? this because she's so afraid of rejection that whenever she come across a guy she adore, she never confessed.. if she think of being in relationship with somebody, she's afraid of being dumped.. so, she choose to stay single---alone... we can see that she places the fear of rejection more than the fear of being alone...

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Scene 2
Dara is another girl living in the upper east side of the town (pengaruh Gossip Girls sungguh)..
She is a socialite, outgoing and a perfect example of a sanguine girl.. she's pretty and new arrival is a must to have for her... and yeah, in term of relationship, she's having a problem with that too... she's having an on and off kinda relationship because guy usually dump her first due to her 'high maintenance'.. but she don't give any shit about that.. she will continue to hunt other guys without fearing of their rejection.. this is because she's more afraid of being alone rather than being rejected (well, imagine someone like Paris Hilton, being alone is so not hot ok)...

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Conclusion:
as you have read, both Minah and Dara are having the same problem->suck in relationship... but how they deals with it is determine by which fear they prioritize more.. rejection or being alone?? and this factor which will govern their attitude and way of life (where relationship thinggy is concerned of course)... yeap, a lot of people have their own greatest fear regardless of how mature or how strong you are, there must a weak point somewhere.. its how we deal with those fear that will made things differ... it took a lot of courage because our fear is one with us, confronting our fear meaning confronting ourselves... which by the way is hell as tough...

as for me, i used to fear rejection so much (thats why i never was a successful womanizer) but then, when i come to think of it, i'll never know the result unless i try.. hurt as it might be when we are being rejected but we learnt about life from that.. even Jesus himself was being rejected by his people once you see.. and yet, He faced it.. not that i'm so afraid of being alone la (don't pandai2 make assumption first aa).. just that, so far everything is neutral.. and wanna know what i fear most now??

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failure in studies... the feeling is like being dumped by superhot Adriana Lima..ouch!!
(as if i have the experience) haha..
MUAHH!!