-The Invitation

It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.

It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals or have become shrivelled and closed from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it, or fade it, or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own; if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, be realistic, remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day. And if you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, 'Yes.'

It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

It doesn't interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.

-The Invitation- Oriah Mountain Dreamer

i read this poem few days back and it stroked my heart deeply...ouch!! haha.. it makes me realize that this is the way how love should be... without expectation, standards to be followed but rather a mystery to be learnt and solved...

i do admit that i do have expectations when it comes to spouse matter (tell me who's not?!!).. and my friends are accusing (i choose this word rather than blaming coz well, truth is hurt, is it not?) me being a choosy dude.. which in fact i am.. its not that i want to be with someone as hot as Adriana Lima (you guys know i'm deeply in love with this girl) but rather someone that could fulfill what my life lacking of...

some people will go and chase after someone and be in love and then what? they separate coz they said there's no chemistry between them, they're not match made in heaven and etc.. all those same excuses just because they want to get rid of another person.. some ending up regreting the choice of their life and regreting won't lead us to no where too.. its the dot.. literally..

someone you love is someone you are going to spend the rest of your life with for goodness sake.. that's for me a very solid reason why we must choose wisely too... of course then we shouldn't be too choosy and expect that someone to score a perfect 10 on our requirements.. think do we fulfill their own requirements too?

i learn something.. and i'll remind myself with that.. some basic requirements of most guys seek:

• someone who can cook. (well, that's what their in-laws are expecting too and its great to have a home made meal rather than outside meals)
• someone who respect us and our family.(of course this is the vital part, especially in my family, where bonding we have close bonding, i can't imagine leaving my family just because my spouse not in sync with them)
• someone who accept us as we are. (and yeah we do will accept as you are.. it something like accepting each other vices)
• someone who will be there for us in time of our need.(its the best feeling to see the face of our spouse (if the marriage us not wreck) waiting at the door greeting us with the warm smile and a litte massage too.. hehe.. all the tiredness of works will be blown away)
• someone who will love and love unconditionally.(in time of a ralationship, of course there will be ups and downs.. lucks and dooms.. so, regardless of whatever the situation is, she will stay together to face it all)

well, the list might go and on but i believe these are some part of what we want (for me as far as i'm concerned).. yeah, i'm a typical Asian dude you see.. and then as written in the invitation, i wouldn't care this and that, i'm just hoping to meet someone who like me, trying to live my life to the fullest and cherish it..

darn it.. well, its a romance post again.. February oh February please fly away...
– for without WOMEN, MEN will never be able to witness this beauty of life alone! – as quoted from As I See It...